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How many times have most of us heard the comment from someone who has been cheated on that they had no idea that their partner was involved in an extramarital affair? Often this is because they have failed to pick up on the inevitable small or subtle signs, of their partner’s infidelity. In a strong marital relationship, any attraction to a member of the opposite sex will be merely passive and any intimate advances from a member of the opposite sex will be rejected. Generally speaking the reason why people cheat on their partner is because of something lacking, or perceived to be lacking, in their marriage.

There are many signs of cheating, some obvious, some not so.

Listed below are six of the main reasons for a person turning to another for sexual involvement outside their marriage:

1. Protest
There are many people who consider that they are within their rights to have an affair particularly if there is no intimacy at home because they and their spouse are continually arguing over matters. These people will often seek understanding and peace in the arms of another person as compensation for the problems they are facing in their marriage.

2. Insecurity

Some of the more common reasons for this are:

• Many men are not able to come to terms with their wife devoting so much of her time to the children and ignoring their spousal communication and contact.
• This has a flow on effect to lack of a general lack of intimacy in a marriage which leaves a man dissatisfied and unsure about the strength of their relationship.
• A man may be over involved at work or at play and neglect his wife and their marital relationship. It is quite common in this event for a woman to stray into a relationship with another man who will give her those things that are missing in the relationship with her husband.
• Advancing age is a major reason for a person feeling insecure. Ageing brings with it a feeling of vulnerability and mortality.

3. Sex & Love
When one of the spouses has waning or lacks interest in a sexual relationship with their spouse but the spouse’s sexual feelings are still strong, an affair is often thought to be the answer to sexual fulfillment.

A person may still need the same sort of love that they first had at the beginning of their relationship. This is of course not realistic because the total sexual and emotional “in love” feeling that both partners had for each other is a short lived thing – many people don’t appreciate this and yearn for what was in the early period of their relationship. When that rush of sexually charged love goes, a person may think that something is wrong with their marriage and look for fulfillment elsewhere.

In many of these situations a straying partner will convince themselves that they have only indulged in an extramarital affair because of what is often called the “fun” that is missing from their marital relationship.

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4. The One Night Stand
We often hear about “the one night stand” – this is more often than not an affair that has little relevance to the person that has indulged in it. Often such an affair is conducted in a state of intoxication or out of sexual curiosity. The impact on your partner, if they find out about it, can be devastating nevertheless.

5. Growing Apart
With the passing of time, couples interests and opinions on various matters often go in different directions. Sometimes these differences mean that there is no longer any common ground the result of which may be that couples are not in a position to give each other what they need.

6. Breakdown of a Relationship
When a marriage reaches the stage where there are irreconcilable differences it is common for one or both partners to go about searching for someone else so that they have companionship when the marriage dissolves.

Here are a couple of very common reasons why some individuals are “affair prone”, and remain having extramarital affairs throughout a committed relationship, even though they by and large have no intention of breaking it up:

Excitement
Some people are simply hooked on the excitement of the initial feelings of love and intimacy that they experienced in their marriage even though they recognize that this is a situation that doesn’t last. They don’t want to leave their marriage partner so they get involved in a series of secret one night stands and other exciting experiences such as clandestine meetings with members of the opposite sex. These encounters may or may not involve sex.

Fear of Intimacy
Strange as it may seem, there are those who find difficulty in handling full intimacy in a married relationship. Often an involvement outside marriage provides the means of creating a certain amount of distance and privacy. What we have in this situation is basically two part time relationships, neither of which places the guilty spouse in a situation where they are required to have full intimacy in their marriage or in the illicit relationship. This kind of arrangement tends to satisfy the requirement for a degree of detachment from their marital relationship.

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Many marriages break up over the pain of signs of infidelity. Love and trust that was promised is taken away. The result of infidelity is both pain as well as hurt.

To find some of the sources of that pain, here is a case study of Sue A. And Joe R. As they work on their emotional infidelity struggles.

Sue was the kid next door when Joe was growing up. During his senior year, they began dating and in his junior year in college, Joe proposed. They have three children, a girl and two boys.

Money was sometimes tight as the kids began to grow older so Joe started working late at the office to make ends meet. A few months later Sue noticed that money was just as tight or tighter even though Joe was working very late almost every night. When she mentioned this to Joe, a big fight followed and Joe left.

After a time to cool off, Joe calls Sue and apologizes. During the call, he also admits that the reason there is no extra money is that he has been involved with someone else. He suggests that he and Sue should find a counselor and try to reconcile.

The heartbreak for Sue is great and forgiveness seems far off. Her husband she has known since she was three has been her betrayer. This was something of which she would have never dreamed. He knew more about her than she felt she knew herself. The hurt was immeasurable.

We all love stories to end happily, however this one may end that way. These deep hurts do not go away overnight. Divorce often follows such mistrust.

Any time in the future, that Joe is late for dinner; those old feelings begin to surface once again. Has he found someone else? Whenever he becomes annoyed at the situation, Joe may be tempted to escape to another place without all the pressures of home.

Somewhere along the way, friends and families may find out what has happened. They too may feel the hurt and friendships may even be broken.

If divorce ensues, children are often torn between the parents. When one parent relocates to a new city, visitation becomes more limited. Many times they see the parent they do not live with only one or two times yearly at most. Children are pained by the lack of quality time spent with the parent. Parents loose the close contact they once had with their children.

The pain continues. Even if Sue finds someone else with whom to spend the rest of her life, Joe’s infidelity in marriage can continue to haunt the new relationship. She may fear sharing feelings since her trust was broken earlier.

Joe’s money troubles have only just begun. Divorce and living the divorced lifestyle is an expensive process, both financially and emotionally. He now pays child support and has to pay his own rent or home payment as well as other bills. Joe also feels the pain of his failure. Infidelity has also brought pain to the instigator.

While infidelity may be tempting, remember that there is a high pain price to pay because surviving infidelity can be harder. It’s all about marital infidelity.

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As with any secret relationship, you want to make sure that you don’t get caught cheating. There are quite a few ways to not get caught having cheating and if you need online cheating tips, there are sites that exist to have you to not get caught.

After you sign up for free, if you haven’t completed your profile and added photos, take a few minutes to add some finishing touches so that you receive the attention you want. It is free to edit your profile and details at any time.

You may add up to 13 pictures and describe your wants and preferences for others to know more about you and what you are looking for. You will be more interesting to other people when you provide more information about yourself.

Locate members who are online and ready to chat right now by searching those that are “chat ready” using the Advanced Search feature. If you find someone you like, send them a wink or a collect message.

You can upgrade your membership from Guest to “Full Member” and purchase credits so you can initiate instant messages and/or send custom mail messages if you wish to initiate contact. Click on “Buy Credits” to purchase credits.

Don’t rush in to quick commitments once you make contact with one or more people. Chat and exchange messages. Don’t rush things and suggest speaking on the phone or meeting for coffee in a public place before making any further commitments.